Self-Discovery and Reflection in the Modern World
Self-discovery is truly a part of continuous growth — an ongoing effort to create a better life by blending what we learn from our experiences, the questions we ask ourselves, and the insights we gain.
Today, the endless flow of information we are exposed to, constant comparisons with others, lifestyles from all around the world, news, meaningless beauty standards, ads, movies, the portrayal of “ideal couples,” “ideal men,” “ideal women,” etc., all distance us from ourselves.
They also distract us and make us feel worse about our lives than we really are.
This is why knowing ourselves — asking not only these questions but more — is so important.
When I see young girls getting lip fillers and breast enhancements; adults going to extremes to look younger; men damaging their health in pursuit of more muscle and an “ideal look”; young people numbing themselves with entertainment, alcohol, and wasting their lives; or people destroying their lives chasing the “perfect” job and wealth on social media — it saddens me.
Because all of these behaviors share one common feature: surrendering to the majority opinion and accepting popular narratives as truth, even when that “truth” turns their lives into a prison.
But does the majority always think correctly?
For centuries, the majority believed the world was flat, that the Sun revolved around the Earth, that the oceans marked the edge of the world.
They thought gods punished people with floods, lightning, heat, and cold; that healers were witches; that independent women were witches; that cats were cursed; that kings were chosen by divine right; that Black people were born to be slaves; that flies spontaneously generated from rotting meat.
In short, the majority opinion has arguably always been the most wrong idea in history.
This is why self-knowledge, self-education, finding both supportive and opposing arguments on any subject (including ourselves), and critically assessing things we’re not satisfied with using sound criteria, is crucial.
Today’s questions:
1️⃣ How did failed interactions this year make me feel?
As social beings, understanding our relationships and being aware of how we feel about them is key to self-awareness and well-being.
Failed interactions can lead to feelings of frustration and disappointment, while successful ones can enhance self-awareness and life motivation.
2️⃣ How can I improve the quality of my communication?
This is about how to strengthen our relationships — not by cutting ties, but by better understanding our emotions, desires, and needs.
With clarity and without compromising ourselves, we can work on forming authentic connections.
Unfortunately, technology, endless choices, and large cities increasingly reduce relationships to surface-level exchanges — which in turn increases the desire and longing for deeper connections.
Therefore, having a clear stance, improving interactions, developing empathy, and working on social skills is more important than ever.
3️⃣ What mindset will I adopt to survive and thrive in this century?
Surviving and thriving today requires a proactive mindset that embraces change and challenges.
Our approach to life significantly influences how we navigate the complexities of the modern world.
Even though we complain about many things, adaptation is a must.
This involves flexibility, resilience, and innovation — though it doesn’t mean sacrificing yourself or living to please others.
4️⃣ What plans do I have to maintain my health?
Physical health is just as important as emotional and mental health — all part of one package.
In my view, a more active life, less social media, more physical activity, more group activities, more reading, more music, more nature: these are key.
5️⃣ What are the top 3 areas where my lifestyle needs improvement?
These areas depend on your own circumstances and reality.
What matters is understanding why you want to change, what you aim to achieve through this change, and whether there are measurable parameters to track your progress.
Sometimes, even after giving everything you have to reach a goal, you might fall into emptiness afterward:
“I’ve achieved it, but it feels empty — where does this go from here?”
This can even lead to existential crises or a sense of meaninglessness.
To avoid reaching that point, think ahead, plan carefully, and ask yourself why before pursuing major goals.
If necessary, share your thoughts or seek professional help.
When you think about it rationally, much of life consists of solving problems we’ve created for ourselves.
In one sense, everything we do seems meaningless — yet at the same time, our seemingly insignificant lives hold profound importance.
We are doing much more than just being here and passing through.
Ultimately, life gains its meaning as we live it.
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