The Roadblock Within: What’s Really Holding You Back?
Still trying to figure yourself out?
As I said from the beginning—it’s not easy.
There are dozens of obstacles and challenges.
But with effort, experimentation, and persistence, we keep moving forward.
No effort is ever wasted. Every moment you invest in yourself takes you one step closer to where you want to be.
Today’s Topic: Internal Obstacles
Let’s talk again about obstacles—but this time, the ones in our own heads.
The inner brake system that holds us back.
I’m sure you’ve felt it before:
You get excited about something, make decisions about how you want to change, and… after a while, you give up.
Or you don’t get the results you expected, and you start to feel stressed.
You question yourself. You even blame yourself.
But here’s the real question:
Was the problem really you—or was it something else?
Pause and Reflect
Ask yourself:
- How many of the things you planned since the beginning of the year have you actually done?
- If you haven’t done much, don’t beat yourself up.
Because there’s a huge difference between doing nothing and not being able to do something yet.
Take a breath.
Think clearly:
Where exactly are you in relation to your goals?
And what can you realistically still accomplish from now on?
What’s Really Holding You Back?
You’ve probably faced many challenges so far.
- How many were under your control?
- How many could have been overcome with help or support from others?
The harder question:
How do you know when you are the one holding yourself back?
Have you noticed patterns in your behavior that act like brakes?
Some of the most common ones are:
- Procrastination
- Blaming others
- Avoiding the actual task by doing everything else instead
- Getting easily distracted
- Inventing convenient excuses
Diagnosis Is Half the Cure
Once you’ve identified the problem, you’re already halfway to solving it.
Let me give you a personal example:
I hate housework. So I postpone it.
But the more I delay, the messier my environment gets—until it starts affecting my mood, energy, and focus.
Eventually, the clutter makes me even more demotivated.
It becomes a cycle:
More mess → More stress → Less action → More mess…
Until I do nothing or waste hours doing meaningless things.
My solution?
I started doing small, annoying tasks immediately as they came up.
And over time, I realized—nothing was piling up anymore.
And just like that, my energy and clarity returned.
Once You See It, You Can Change It
If you’ve made a similar discovery about yourself, good news:
You’re ready to change it.
As always, the key is to first analyze yourself—figure out what you’re doing and why.
Once you’ve done that, the steps to improve are usually much simpler than you think.
Final Thought
Self-discovery isn’t easy.
But it’s worth every second.
Because the more you understand yourself, the less you’ll sabotage your own progress—and the easier it’ll be to break free from your internal obstacles.
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