How to change lives and get out of the routines-3

Let’s continue from where we stopped.

Social Environment

The first thing suggested to drug/alcohol or other addicts is to change their social environment because it pulls us in and doesn’t matter you are aware or not. Then our physical world connects with our inner world and calls our subconscious.

well, therefore it is important. you can go back to your life now.

kidding. Yes, it is important to have a new environment if we want to get out of our routines. Even if you may need to cut all your connections with your past sometimes. Especially, if you think that, your surrounding is not supporting you, exploiting your energy, not sharing your dreams, not respecting your change; it is better to change your environment. but how?

Many adults think that it is not easy to make friends as we were kids. Do you also think so? Then you should also keep this in mind:

Everything in life is replaceable.

so, how can you get new friends and a social environment?

If you are learning, join a community and meet people who are doing the same activity. This will increase your motivation and also give you chance to know new interesting people. you do sport for example(I told you in a previous post, it is important ), talk with the people about it and ask them what they do for health.

It won’t be successful always for sure but think that it is pre-success. Don’t be afraid of being dumb.

Healthy Relationship

Try to conduct healthy relationships with people around you. You can smile more in the day, right? It won’t kill you. So, smile more in the day, try to keep eye contact, and be more sincere. Talking more and sharing more with your wife, your husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, kids, your friends will not destroy your schedule and day.

If you are single and a loner, stop crying and complaining. Don’t say that you can not attach to someone. There is no such problem. Problem is that you have the wrong people because you don’t try to connect with them at all. The more open you are more connections you have. So, stop excuses and try to have a good structured, honest and regular relationship. It will make your life a lot easier.

Money… you don’t need money to attract another person. Just try to know each other and connect. Instead of an expensive restaurant, you can go for a walk or a picnic. Important are emotional connection and honesty.

For partner or friend, never expect to be liked. Don’t give up on yourself to be liked. Don’t act. Only if you are yourself, you can find the correct people and environment. Instead of tens of superficial relationships, one person with who you have good with would make you happy.

Of course, there can be different wishes and expectations from life. All I wrote so far is for the one who complains about own life. There are plenty of ways to change your life. I guess the main point is understood.

Appreciation

This is mostly understood wrong. Appreciation does not mean accepting everything you have and doing nothing more. It means that you should be happy with small things and you should think simply for personal realization. For example, you drink coffee. It has nothing to do with your life. So, you can stay at that moment and be happy with the taste, the feeling of drinking it, to have that moment.

You can thank life when you use toilet paper just because you have access to it; you can thank your genes when your hair is still there after years; if you are losing hair you can still thank life because it will give you a new image. Just imagine your 5 senses and appreciate the feeling.

These practices will give you energy and keep you in the n moment. You will be aware of your life more and it will help you to change and reach your goals. It will also reduce stress, destroy future concerns, past regrets,

Be patient!

Success is a bottom-up process. You start from the bottom and collect pieces and make a big system in the end. As human beings, we are mostly not disloyal to ourselves. Once we have success, we immediately forget the process. However, the process is the most important part. It is the vital component of success and it is the main part that defines us and our lives. Therefore, BE PATIENT!

If necessary, write a diary or make a photo gallery. You will see that you are changing every day.

Small hint for patience: as an impatient person, I practice patience with music. Looping small parts, trying and failing, again and again, looks hard at the beginning but then you see that even a small amount of time of practice gives you big progress.

Surprise!!!

Be poor with the surprises. Your change may result is different than you expected maybe even worse. Isn’t it what makes life better? Uncertainty!

If you cannot reach your goal, you are the only reason. Therefore, just think about where you u did a mistake. Even if you were successful, you should think that how differently you could reach there. Think about the process and see it out-of-box. Don’t let surprises disappoint you. They are all experiences!