Let’s say that we take the time back. What would you like to change? Do you think this change would also alter your present? Do you think it is okay to be stuck in the past? Do you think of the past often? Do you miss the past or does it make you upset then can you forget it and live in your present?
The core idea of today is hiding in the last question. All our facing idea is living in the present without referring to the past but also without ignoring it and being stuck on it. In other words, freedom of soul, mind and conscience.
Do you feel bad when you think that the past cannot be changed? What are you doing at this moment?
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This time I will write my own answer to the question.
Sometimes, I am stuck in the past. Thankfully, I don’t have critical regret but whenever I feel bored, hopeless, and vulnerable; I think that I live with the consequences of my decision. Then, good memories come to mind and I ask myself: was I really happy at that moment, and why?
Yes, I was happy for different reasons. How about the moments that I was upset? It is the same. It wasn’t my choice to have those moments.
After digging more into details, I have noticed that; whenever I expect something from what I am doing, I have never gotten the result I wanted. Whenever I did something forcefully and by cursing all the time, it led me somewhere beyond what I had imagined. Sometimes, I made a plan of every step but it brought me depression and unhappiness.
At that moment I accepted that life is the sum of chaos and the unknown, I have never ever again gotten stuck in the past. All this chaos and unknown make life actually livable and wonderful. At that moment, my nightmares faded away, and the feeling of missing the past disappeared. I don’t feel any worse about negative moments because I know that it is an experience. Now, I see how many opportunities I missed just because I wanted to make the ‘perfect’ decision and just because I believed that my dreams should be achieved as it is.
I really like the definition of life from Viktor Frankl who survived Auschwitz. He says that life is like a movie. In the beginning, you don’t understand what is going on but in the end, you discover the meaning of it. Sometimes, you also see in the end that bad moments create actually better chances. ( I recommend the book. Man Searching Meaning-Viktor Frankl)
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