How to know yourself-13: Regret

There is no point to regret. It doesn’t work, it doesn’t help, and it doesn’t change. What we can change is our perception about it and moving on.

Do you have regrets? Do you have moments in your past that you want to change? How did you feel at that moment and why do you regret it now? What would change if you could change?

These are today’s questions. I have no regret. This is not because I made no mistakes but I have accepted that all actions have some reasons, and consequences and I have to live with them. I have to see it all as an experience. Responsibility is the key.

We cannot control everything in life but we can analyze the events, state the problem, investigate the reasons, and see the result. If we reach the same result, it means that it is not about us. Therefore, we should need to think about it more because we do not affect it. Do not let these events destroy your mood!

When I think about regrets, I have always more soft and abstract things in mind such as “saying I love you”, “spending time more focused and quality”, “showing your emotions”, and “giving value to people”. Because everything else can be repaired but feelings, and heartbreaks can not. This is maybe a bit cliche but I find this important as a person who has been living alone since 18 years old, who has had different social circles in different countries, and who doesn’t miss the past.

to sum up; the most important thing to do with regret is take the responsibility for the actions. Then, rationalizing it, taking lessons from mistakes, and not repeating them. after that, deciding what we can change and what we cannot. In the end, not stuck in the past and seeing everything as an experience which makes our present better.